The Day After Church – Episode 4: Covenants and Marriage

The Day After Church – Episode 4: Covenants and Marriage

🎧 Podcast Notes – The Day After Church Podcast

Series: Family: Covenant Relationships
Episode: Week 1 – Husbands and Wives: The Covenant of Harmony


Episode Summary

In this episode of The Day After Church Podcast, Pastor Craig unpacks the launch of our new series, Family: Covenant Relationships. Week 1 focused on Husbands and Wives – The Covenant of Harmony.

We explored what it really means to live in covenant—not contract—and why intimacy is at the heart of every covenant relationship. Marriage isn’t just a legal agreement; it’s a God-designed reflection of Christ and His church.


Listener Question: What is Covenant?

Definition: Covenant (n.): a binding and enduring agreement, sealed with promise, that creates relationship and responsibility.

  • A contract is based on performance: “If you do your part, I’ll do mine.”
  • A covenant is based on promise: “Even if you don’t, I will.”

Key Scriptures (NLT)

  • John 17:3“And this is the way to have eternal life—to know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one You sent to earth.”
  • Genesis 4:1“Now Adam had sexual relations with his wife, Eve, and she became pregnant.” (Older translations: “Adam knew Eve.”)
  • Genesis 2:24“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”
  • Luke 22:20“This cup is the new covenant between God and His people—an agreement confirmed with my blood, which is poured out as a sacrifice for you.”
  • Ephesians 5:25, 31–32“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her… This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.”

Main Points

  1. Intimacy is God’s language of life. (John 17:3)
  2. Intimacy is inherent to covenant, but it requires intentionality.
  3. Marriage was God’s idea, not man’s invention. (Genesis 2:24)
  4. Contracts are built on performance; covenants are built on promise. (Luke 22:20)
  5. Marriage is God’s sermon to the world. (Ephesians 5:25, 31–32)
  6. Harmony isn’t sameness—it’s difference working together.
  7. Marriage is the daily classroom of covenant love. (Hebrews 13:4)

Power Phrases

  • “Intimacy is God’s language of life.”
  • “Covenant without intimacy is just a contract dressed up.”
  • “Contracts are built on performance. Covenants are built on promise.”
  • “Your marriage is God’s sermon to the world.”
  • “Harmony isn’t sameness—it’s difference working together.”
  • “Intimacy isn’t automatic—it’s intentional.”

Reflection Questions

  1. How would you describe your current intimacy with God? How does that affect your other relationships?
  2. Where do you need to be more intentional in your marriage (or future marriage)?
  3. In what ways have you slipped into “contract thinking” in relationships—and how can you shift back to “covenant thinking”?
  4. If your marriage is a sermon, what is it preaching right now?
  5. How can you embrace differences in your relationships as part of God’s design for harmony?

Takeaway Thought

Marriage is not a contract—it’s a covenant. When anchored in God, covenant intimacy produces life and reflects Christ’s love to the world.

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